By Arese Sylvester.
Unless you’re one of the lucky few who’s still in a relationship with their first love, you’re bound to approach the topic with some amount of trepidation. Here at theayamba.com, we asked people how they feel about their first love, and the responses were so real.
Personally, I don’t regret it. Whenever I remember the relationship, I feel sad because I really hoped it would work out and all. If he makes his way straight and acts right, I’d definitely go back. I miss the idiot. — Sarah.
I don’t regret it; I just wish I was more mature. I also wish I knew the things I know now. I really wish it worked, but it didn’t, and that’s life. It taught me a lot of things, and she taught me how to handle my emotions. She also taught me how to let go of toxic masculinity. We’re still on good terms, and if she would be my girlfriend again, I’ll be happy and set things straight this time. But it seems we’ve moved on. — Enoch.
I feel good about it, but it was strange to me in the beginning. Throughout my life, I always had doubts if I could indeed care so deeply for a person. It was exciting, especially at the moment. It is one of the few moments in my life that I actually felt truly happy; never have I been so enthralled by another person. All in all, a grand experience. — Alexander.
I actually have no regrets there. It only hurts that it ended how it did, and when it did, cause I was looking at a really long-term thing; if possible forever. I enjoyed it while it lasted. Right now, I just look back and smile. It was a good run. — Temi.
Very mumu person. — Lydia.
No feelings at all, but I certainly do not have regrets. — Precious.
It was the first experience, so I can’t really say what I feel at the moment. But I really loved her back then. — Stephen.
I always joked about the toxic relationship thing, but once I experienced it, my eyes cleared. That relationship made me into something I’m not. I did so many things, man. I regret it so much. I should have kept my heart for someone that actually cared about me. — Edidiong
She broke my heart and I feel so pained till this moment. I should have listened to my friends, but I really loved her. — SK.
Honestly, I just feel like I wasted the opportunity to make my first love experience great. So I have regrets. I wanted my first love to be my last love, but damn, that love was toxic to me. It wasn’t the person, but it was me loving her the way I did. I don’t think I have the energy to love like that anymore. — Ibrahim.
I was at a very tender age, I can’t really address it as first love. We’re still very cool, we talk and when we see each other, I don’t feel anything for her. — Ayodeji.
I feel nostalgic and kind of sad because I don’t think I can feel that way about someone and have them feel it back for me anymore. And I liked the feeling, that certainty, cause right now I’m kind of insecure. — Paul.
My first love was so good. When I think about him, I feel happy to have experienced such kind of love. — Gloria.
My first love: 😪👎🏽 But thank God, now I am in a happy relationship. So it’s all good. — Kingsley.
My first love is this pretty girl from my childhood and I actually don’t regret anything that happened between us at all. The only thing I regret is the breakup because it was my fault. I wasn’t patient enough to understand the things about love at that time. — Joshua.
As intense as it was, I don’t exactly feel anything anymore. I know people sometimes feel that light connection to their first love, but I actually just enjoy the memory; it’s a beautiful memory. For me, falling in love with someone always feels like the first love. All the times I’ve genuinely fallen in love, it felt very new and unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. — Ayoalade.
I don’t have any regrets tbh. It was nice to experience that feeling, even though it was short-lived. When I remember the person, I feel indifferent. — Miracle.
Whenever I remember or think about the person, I just laugh. I was really young, and my shyness probably made it short. I guess feelings of regret would then follow up, cause looking at it from now, we both really liked each other but didn’t know how to express it well. — David.
I feel gratitude, she contributed to a lot of traits and exhibits in my love life now. — Henry.
He ain’t shit. — GT.
He cheated on me and made it seem like I was crazy. Cue in Beyonce with the baseball bat I’m with someone I love and trust, but I’m never going to get that out of my mind. — Sarah Stanley.
I can’t even remember what he looks like. That’s how much I don’t care about him.” — Grace M.
I loved him. I know a lot of people have a bad history with their exes, but I’ll always remember my first love as my real love. He is married now, and I’m still single. I wish the distance didn’t tear us apart. — Jennifer C.H.
Hmm, now that I think about it, if I see that nigga out here on these streets, I’m getting my girls and we gon’ jump his trifling ass. But it’s all love though. — Tyrionna.
I cheated on him, I was young and naive. I learned a lot in the years we’ve been apart. I wish him all the best in this life.” — Erica.
Stupid fool. Kai, I’ll never forget that time in high school I was doing love. He opened my eyes and put pepper inside. This heartbreak go reach everybody.” — Margaret.
Still with my baby, been in only one real relationship and he’s always been the love of my life. — Susan.
It’s hard to admit but I broke up with her back in 2015 because I thought I had someone better. Now that I think about it, she’s the only one who ever gave a damn about me.” — Marcus.
That girl is wicked. You people should stop asking questions that will give someone hypertension.” — Charles.
Lmao, some people will lie and say they were cheated on. Anyway, I married my first love, and we are still going strong. She’s a real sweet babe and she sabi cook die. — Michael.
I hated myself when I was with her. We broke up last year, and I feel so much better about myself.” — O.T.
I loved him deeply and he loved me too. He was a sickle cell and there was no way we could be together with my AS genotype. I still think about him even though it’s been 4 years. — Mariam.
I don’t really feel regrets, cause I feel like it had to happen. It helped me define my relationship life and although it didn’t end well, I’m happy it happened at that point in my life. — Seamas.
I miss her so much. It’s been four years and I don’t think the despair is going to go away. — Liz.
No matter what you do in this life, just know that men are useless and they’ll ruin you. — Emem.
That girl bin no rate me at all. Chai. — Desmond.
I’m still with my first love o. Sorry to you guys. — Isaac.
About the writer: Arese Sylvester is a brilliant writer, editor, and storyteller from West Africa, Nigeria. Writing has been a constant in her life as she navigated awkward teenage phases and social nuisances. She explores and tells the stories of marginalized demographics while documenting lifestyle, culture, and politics through her vast experiences. Instagram and Twitter: @omgitsarese. Email: email@example.com.
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